My little man and the visits we all have....

Have spent the last couple days before Xmas with my little man and we had a great visit. Being divorced and not seeing my kids as much as I want has always been tough. For all the parents who follow me, that have their kids living with them most of the time, well, you all should feel real lucky, never, ever, take it for granted and make everyday count. I'm sure that most parents know exactly what I am saying and that of course is the way it should be. For those of you that are in my situation, I feel for you all, I am with you in the lonliness that we all feel seeing them leave, to go back to their normality of having a permant home. It's tough watching them leave - not knowing for sure, at all, sometimes, when we will see them again and during the holiday's it's always even more tough, I feel it and I feel for all of you that have it so. 

Remember that your not alone - there are millions of us, parents that have in many ways chosen it, to go almost two weeks in between the precious visits that we cherish beyond these feeble words I now write -  I know - it's damn hard to feel the feelings that we all share, I guess we have to, as I try and be, as noraml as possible, smile and give them a hug and kiss goodbye and tell them that you love them. What else can we do? Lucky for us we have mobil phones, skype and all the rest that gives us a chance to see them even if we phyiscaly can't be with them. It's better than nothing I know and I am glad for it even though sometimes it does not help all that much. We have to smile and keep the faith, all of us that are part time parents in the sense of being together with them in person but we can give them all the love possible and hope it's enough. Normaly it is and that's a good thought.

Be strong, think that the choice you make are the right ones, trust yourself and your convictions - most times they are spot on and when we make those tough choices, well, we are doing that which is best for the ones we love the most. I know I did, I made the right choice almost 7 years ago, have seen my kids blossom in their 'new' life without me as part of their everyday life - I made the choice I knew was best and really, I do sleep well at night even though I miss them so. I hope all of you, my readers that are in similar situations feel the same about your own personal choices you've had to make in regards to your kids. Trust yourself and think about that kids are smart, they know, they feel your love and understand the choices you made and in almost all cases they'll love you even more for making the sacrifices that you have made!! Remember that - life is long and our kids grow, become adults and then you'll get the message from them in the form of a thank you that will make your heart expand with pride and joy...Peace and love everyone. 😊💗💪😊👊💗

Grass Killers....😠😠😠

I get this sick feeling when I see this at the club... why oh why do people feel they have the right to go right out on the course when it is obviously covered in frost?? Do they not know that with each and every step they take they are killing the grass?? Do they not care? Is it an apethy because it's not their course, it's not their grass they are killing?? I try and stop as many people as possible when I see it but sometimes I just don't see them or am maybe busy with something else...but the response of people is amazing - they 9 out 10 times understand that they are actrually killing the grass and that they understand that we don't want them taking their nightly walks upon the course when it's covered in frost... My question is always 'If you know that you killing the grass with each step, why are you doing it...??' 

The answers I get are as equally amazing - because for the most part the people have no sign of remorse, almost never say sorry and seem to be actually mad at me for telling them to get off the grass and use the paths or roads that are just meters from where they are killing the very grass they are walking on... Unreal... just unreal. 

I guess nothing should surprise me anymore and I guess I shouldn't get upset but I do and I just hope people would think about all the members who actually pay a good amount of money to have a course in good shape come spring - one without footprints of dead grass all over the place. 

People just don't care when it's not theirs and that in and of itself is scary I think. Grass Killers stay away - PLEASE!!!!!

Tiger Wooooo

The Big Cat is back and he's causing waves in the golf world as always. I have a Twitter account and follow a good many other professional golfers there and some of the reactions are just so great to see, While others are saying things like he gets to much tv time, does not deserve to jump so much in the world rankings and other jealous remarks that are really just quite sad. Grown men who misjudge their own importance in the golfing community. I won't name names but just check Twitter yourselves. You'll see it among all the other of us, that are just happy and humbled to see the great player once again stalking the fairways and most likely making more birdies than the rest of the field - just like he did in his first comeback from 16 months away after an extensive back surgery. 

I can remember watching Tiger win his third US Amature at Pumkin Ridge Golf Club in 1996. I had worked there in 1994 while starting my own PGA schooling. He was amazing then and still is. Never has a player changed the game of golf as he did. Arnold brought it to the people and Jack rewrote the record books giving us the first player to dominate in a way no one had seen - Then the Big Cat said 'Hello world' days after that last US Amature win and the change began that we see today. 

I have always been a huge Tiger fan, no matter the mistakes he made in leading up to the disgrace he had in 2009 or any other hiccup he has had along the way - he still is the most important player in modern history. The tv ratings from the Hero shows the so called Tiger effect - it's like nothing we've ever seen in any other sport and all the haters can just back up off and instead thank the man for giving them the increase of money they play for each and every week. Even the Ryder Cup team showed him - they made 'Let's make Tiger great again' t-shirts - showing their respect and love for the man. 

I root for him everytime, every single time and I hope he makes true his goals in the future, I believe that at some point in the future he will break the 18 mark set by Jack - I am tipping 20 will be the magic number when it's all said and done. Being a Tiger fan is like being a Yankee fan, or a Patriots fan...you are either a fan for life or not. I can say with pride that I never have doubted his comeback, that he would make it back to the biggest stage and prove himself again. Visit Twitteer all of you and see for yourself... aloof golf professionals hating the man, the player and lets not forget his foundation and all the money he gives back...it's quite unreal....

GO TIGER WOOOOO!!!!

Imagine and taking a chance....

I took this picture on a trip to New York a good many years ago, John Lennon and his wife Joko got permission from the city to put this in Central Park a few years before he was sadly taken from her and the rest of us. Imagine though, imagine the possibilities of this life, and the chances that come into our lives that we choose to take - some of them can change our lives forever, simple things like a letter to the right person - making a trip someplace that your actually unsure about but think is a good idea - you imagine what might happen and the results can be magic to say the least. When we dare to imagine the good in someone or something we open our hearts to the universe and the possiblity for it to maybe guide us forward with a new future...

Imagine that the chances we dare not take are the things we will regret the most in the end. I believe this. Of course taking risks that include personal harm or injury are probably not a smart idea but even jumping out of perfectly good airplane with nothing but the faith that the parachute will open and save you might for some be worth it -Imagine that. There are many times in life we jump - with our whole self and we have faith - sometimes it's faith in ourselves and other times it's faith in someone or something else, but we imagine the results of the chance we take and we judge the risks and rewards - and we jump... 

I beleive that's part of being part of it all - life - the incredible universe and this wonderous spinning thing we inhabit that is sometimes called Mother Earth - Absoultly amazing isn't it? We are all riding this earth and it's spinning through the universe at unbeleaveable speeds and we can imagine so many things that we can not only feel but things that we believe without knowing actually why- love is one of those things, and for me the most important. Imagine a world with more or less love being the reason, the cause for everything...

Imagine that. Unreal? No way. I know it's possible and I beleive it with all my heart... Love is the key to being able to imagine the best in each of ourselves and the others we are so lucky to meet in this life, the chances we take with our hearts and love. I dare every one of my readers to imagine their lives filled with more love than they can hold in their own hearts and imagine what you could do if you took the chance to give all that extra love away to someone who really deserves it...do it and open your heart to the chance of getting back so much more than you could ever expect...and imagine how wonderful the world would be...peace and love would rule forever!