Have been having two thoughts going through my head as of late; first being, is it always the nice guy that finishes last or is it possible that the nice guy can finish first?? My experience is telling me that the first answer to the first question is a resounded yes... The answer to the second; well, I am not sure, can one keep trying to be nice in the face of all the disappointments and seeing that the not nice guy has a way of finishing ahead for some reason or another... What is one to do?? Stop with the being nice?? Turn oneself into something not nice, or outright mean??
How does one stay being nice and still finish first?
I guess the answer to that is just to be better at what ever it is that your doing than everyone else your competing against. Or is that to easy? Would it be possible in the long run anyway? Or is the case of point a mute one because of all the not nice people out there who just try and ruin it for everyone else? I have no real answers here but I am sure thinking about it a lot and have some distinct meanings about the subject, some of which are maybe to bold to print here....
Nice guys do finish last.
Sometimes one has to get 'mean' to get what one wants, one has to be willing to overlook others feelings, see past other people, not notice others who are trying to achieve the same goal, walk all over them, like a king... who's to say that is actually mean? Maybe it's just one being focused on his or her goal, and it's everyone else who does not understand it's not about being nice or not, it's about reaching ones goals, doing what it takes to get there and thinking blindly about it... Is that possible? Not sure myself, many times people who are so focused on one thing get the stamp of being selfish, one sided, arrogant, having no feelings, whatever it might be and I don't really know the answers...
As I get older the questions become maybe a little less in regards to how many they are, but the questions coming to heart are much more deep, serious, meaningful in nature that one has to use more time in considering the outcome or consequence of ones resolve to reach and understanding or meaning.... I am just one man, one soul, one father, one human being and I know that making a difference always starts with oneself and if one can't get that in order, well, then it's hard to think about anything more than oneself...
I remember all my life, not like a movie, from start to finish, but in bits and pieces that come and go in regards to what I am doing, saying or thinking... Having just my own life as a reference point, well, it seems to be enough at times but I really do know that we all need someone else, and I am hoping that for the most part the people I meet and have something with to do, well, I hope they have the ability to be nice and choose to do so each and everyday, a made choice, so easy really, but then again so hard...
